Why do we prefer to stay in Victimhood?

This has been on my mind and I see many people on social media especially who ALWAYS stays in victimhood. Now don't get me wrong the odd here and there of a person stating their challenges and how they rise or recover from their challenges in life are not the ones I'm referring to. I'm talking of the ones that are constantly referring to their challenges, struggles and difficulties in life even though they are doing "well" now. The question is "Are they really doing well?" Or are they stuck in their victimhood because it feels better to be there? Why don't they just talk about the positive changes they made to get where they are? Do we really need to know that they were or are a victim of circumstance? I may get backlash on this but there are some things that needs to be said to highlight this tragic state of beingness and to try and bring about a new healthy you!

Victim mentality is a topic that has been increasingly discussed in recent years, as it continues to plague the lives of many individuals. The word "victim" is a heavy one, and its connotation is often associated with helplessness, sadness, and despair. But why do people prefer to stay in victim mode instead of taking charge of their lives? Here are a few reasons why:

1. It's familiar

For some individuals, being in a state of victimhood is all they know. If they've been in that mindset for a long time, it becomes ingrained within them and they become comfortable with it. It feels easier to blame others or external circumstances for the problems they face, rather than taking responsibility for their own actions.

2. It brings attention

Being in victim mode often garners sympathy and attention from others. If someone is always the victim, people feel sorry for them and offer support. For some individuals, this attention can be addictive and they may prefer to stay in this state because of the emotional support they receive from others.

3. It avoids the need for change

Change takes effort and can be scary for many people. Staying in victim mode allows for an excuse to avoid change altogether. Victims feel as though their situation is out of their control and they are powerless to make any changes, so they don't bother to try.

4. It keeps them safe

Playing the victim can protect individuals from experiencing disappointment or hurt because it allows them to place the blame on someone else. This delusion of safety means they don't have to face the fear of taking responsibility for their actions and dealing with the consequences that may follow.

While the reasons for staying in victim mode may differ from person to person, the fact remains that it's not a healthy state of mind to remain in. Making a change to break out of victim mode requires a willingness to take responsibility, face fears, and make tough decisions. But ultimately, it's worth it to take control of your life and begin a journey towards a happier, healthier mindset.

Love Always!

Kissy